I was recently granted the "pleasure" of the addition of an office mate to my previously single office. At first she seemed very nice but then everything went to pot. First of all, she is obssessed with chewing gum. I hate gum. I hate the smell of it and more importantly the noise it makes. It sounds like there is a dairy cow in here when she is chewing it and she chews multiple pieces nonstop, everyday. When I didn't think she could eat anything that made more noise she started chomping away on carrots. She chews everything with her mouth open, belches out loud, and takes things from my desk. I have a cup that used to have candy in it (post addition of my office mate) and once when I was reaching for the phone she thought I had candy in there so she held out her hand and said candy like a little three year old. I don't know what to do. I do not have the balls to say something to her face but cannot stand it anymore. She even told me one day to turn off my Christmas music because it was annoying. Would it be unreasonable for me to ask my boss to say something to her? I feel like she would know it was me complaning anyways since I am the only one in the same office as her. What does everyone think? Please help, I am going crazy here!

Unmotivated boyfriend, what to do?

I am a female in my mid twenties and have been dating my boyfriend for over three years. When we first got together he had a stable, good paying job. After about a year of dating we started moving around for my job, he worked off and on during that time, which didn’t bother me because my company covered expenses. However, we have been “home” now for a year and he has been without a job for a year and a half. I work full time and also go to school full time. He claims to look for employment during the day but has only had one interview the entire time. He has a bachelors degree in a generic field and should have no trouble finding something. I believe he is unmotivated, somewhat lazy, and too picky. I am getting very sick of paying for everything and would like him to get a job so we can get a house and get married. To top it off, he also tries to criticize me for my spending habits, which I feel is unfair given he does not make any money. Everyone keeps telling me I should dump him, make him move out, and/or give him an ultimatum. I don’t know what to do. I feel like I make alot of sacrifices for him (paying for everything, dealing with all the stress, trying not to bug him about a job, etc.) and he will not make ANY for me. At times I feel bad for him but at other times I just want to scream at him. I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him but I don’t know how much longer I can take all of this stress. When I try to talk to him about the issues (job, house, marriage, etc.) he just ends up getting mad and telling me that he wants all of that but it’s not the right time and if I’m not happy then we “should talk”. I don’t know what to do, help!